We all do it.
I do it.
You do it.
Everyone does it.
Does that make it right? No, not really. Does acknowledging that it’s not right mean that it will stop? Of course not.
Judging people is part of being a human. Every human being judges every other human being that they encounter.
You can deny it. You can say, “No, I never judge people!” You can lie to everyone.
And even while you’re lying to the world about your ability to not judge others, they know you’re lying and that negatively affects their judgment of you whether they admit it or not.
Judging people is not always a bad thing. In some instances it can save your life.
Let’s say that you’re in a strange city walking down the street by yourself. Walking towards you is a slouching man in dark, baggy clothes with both hands in the pockets of his over-sized coat. I’m sure that statistics say that this man is just in a hurry to get home and means no harm to anyone. However, he looks as if he would be up to no good and that puts you on the alert. You double check that your wallet is where it should be. You clutch your purse just a little tighter. You walk a little faster to get past him sooner. Maybe you have a can of pepper spray with you so you get it ready just in case.
Now, maybe this man just walks past you because he’s not a bad guy. Maybe he sees that you aren’t the easy target that he’s looking for. Or maybe he decides to attack. If so, then you’re ready to do all you can to protect yourself.
Why are you ready?
You are ready because you judged him.
You are ready because you followed your instincts the way that all humans are programmed to do and didn’t try to bury them.
Civilization and society and culture are all conspiring to make people believe that they should believe the best in everyone. That’s a good thing, when it’s limited and not abused.
A murderer is still a murderer.
Sure, he can feel sorry for what he did and regret the actions, but he is still a murderer. There is no need to look past that. He has been judged by the people and those that are smart will keep their distance.
However, this “believe the best” garbage will have the sheeple-types giving this man as many chances as he wants regardless of the crimes he commits. They will fund his actions and then blame the people who aren’t willing to give him any more chances for his actions.
He will be given a permanent “get out of jail free” card while the sheeple imprison the ones who did nothing wrong other than judge him and stand by their judgments.
There are times when a person may be judged wrongly.
Take, for example, a shopping trip to the grocery store: a 17-year-old girl, her father, and her three-month-old baby brother. An older woman shopping with her granddaughter sees the trio and proclaims to her granddaughter how disgraceful it is that men are robbing the cradle to have babies with babies. The grandmother knows nothing about the three and automatically assumes relationships that don’t exist. In an attempt to use this as an object lesson for her granddaughter, she lectures about various things such as safe-sex, abstinence, and perverted men.
That example actually happened eight years ago. My brother is now eight and if I take him places people still assume he’s mine.
I don’t care about the assumptions because they don’t affect me.
The judgments don’t bother me because I know the truth.
I also know that I judge others so it would be hypocritical of me to be offended by others judging me.
The world is not a happy, fun-loving place all the time. The world simply exists as it is: good and bad.
Many people would say that those who judge others fall into the “bad” category, but the intelligent members of the human species know better.
Life is NOT fair.
It never has been and never will be.
People will judge you and you will judge them. It is the way the human species works. There is no side-stepping the issue. You either deal with it or it will deal with you.
Being overly sensitive to the fact that people will judge you based on your looks, your walk, your way of speaking, your facial expression, your friends, the song you’re singing, or the books you’re reading will only hurt you.
I, for one, only care about one thing when I’m being judged: that I’m being judged for something that is actually so. (We all know how much I hate to be misunderstood!) Unfortunately, this is something that I have little control over because I obviously cannot have a meaningful conversation with every single person who will see/judge me. Nor would I want to, in many cases!
And lastly, the only judgments that I care about come from the people who mean the most to me. Of course, even in those cases I don’t care nearly as much as other people do, but I’m still willing to listen and consider the judgments of those few people.
I realize that this post was all over the place and doesn’t really have an actual point. It’s more of a rambling thought about judging people. Hopefully it makes sense. Enjoy!